Thoughts on Motherhood and my friend Mary

Today…I want to share something very personal to me.

I want to talk a little about family.

When I was little I always knew I wanted to grow up, get married, have children…be a mother. I think it’s something a lot of little girls aspire to be. And now my main goals in life, my dreams are a reality. It’s not always as romantic as I imagined it would be, but it’s so much more fulfilling than I could have dreamed of.

My husband and my children are absolutely everything to me. Their lives are the fiber with which I weave my life… and a beautiful life it is.  I know I need to express gratitude to my husband more often that he has enabled me to live my dream to become a mother.

This is me with my boys when I was about 5 months pregnant. I am much bigger than this now. It’s getting harder to get around and it’s often frustrating not feeling like myself. But every frustrating moment is checked by the fact that I know how lucky we are to be able to have more children. These boys are lucky. 

Having our first child was such an exciting step for us, but adding another one {and now another} to our family really has helped it feel more complete. There is something so special about giving your child a sibling. Seeing them love each other and share unique memories with one another that they will share with no one else. More personalities in the mix also bring more fun to our days.

I’m not saying large families are for everyone, but I know for us that we knew we were meant to have more. After the time consuming baby phase starts to wear off, we feel that tug on our hearts. We count the kids as they get in the car or as we put them to bed and feel like we’re forgetting something…that we’re missing someone…even though both boys are there. And we know…our family needs to grow.

And so, that is why Mary’s story touches me so. After years of trying to have children, she and her husband recently adopted a beautiful boy named Max. They have been such wonderful, attentive parents. You can visibly see how much Max is loved.

But just as we did, they feel that tug on their hearts to have another. To give Max a sibling to love, to play with and to share childhood with.

Mary is actually one of my dear friends from high school. She was one of those people that believed in me even when I didn’t deserve it. She saw past my character flaws and brought out the best in me. She is also completely disarming. She’ll act dorky and silly and crazy around you within five minutes of meeting you and not really care. You know you’ll have fun no matter what and never run out of things to talk about. But in the same turn, she is incredibly driven and goal-oriented. She has a zest for getting the most out of life and actually works toward accomplishing that. I think Max is really lucky to have her as his mom…and Merrill as his dad. They have a stable, loving home that I think any child would be blessed to be apart of.

A lot of successful adoptions happen by word of mouth. So I’m asking you to go to Mary and Merril’s site. Get to know them. Help them find another child that was meant to be in their beautiful, amazing family.

My wish for them is that they too will have the joy of seeing their children love each other and grow up with each other.

Here is a list of all their sites:

Thanks for reading. Have a blessed weekend.